India celebrated Teacher’s Day a few days back and in US everyone seems to celebrating the hint of fall ( in record breaking heat ) and the back to school-ness feeling of getting up, getting organized and starting off again. Such exuberance around the concept of school and teachers, especially in India, on September 5th when entire nation is sending sentiment laden maudlin messages with bad meter about that one teacher in Class 2 who drew a boat for you to color that helped you become Mechanical Engineer or whatever, forced, compelled and involuntarily brought forth the memories of my own “That One Teacher”.
Before I begin, an important disclaimer – I believe there are many good teachers in this world, who struggle valiantly to bring knowledge and generosity to their students. They work with limited resources, to mold young minds, give those hope, who have very little and open a whole world to young minds. Most of them never receive any thanks for their endless work and very little pay for all their diligence. They are many such superheroes without capes in this world and thank goodness for them! My own sister’s student years had been enriched by many such amazing teachers who had a strong role in helping her evolve into the strong, confident, kind and bookish woman that she is today. Viva for such great teachers, may you always teach what is right, may you be paid for it and may you always be honored for all that you!
However, not all teachers are created equal and mine belonged to a whole different category. I was sent to school in one of the premier Catholic Convent schools in this part of the geography ( Convent Schools being the epitome of education until International Baccalaureate certification took over country in 2010s) The Nuns and the teachers mostly were good if not invested and passionate about teaching young women and empowering them etc. There were a few goods ones, and few bad ones and mostly middling ones. They taught us well enough but with little to no interest in igniting our minds with curiosity or intellect. And in between selecting students carefully after a rigorous entrance exam and some good teachers, the results were always on the excellent side if not always outstanding. They taught us English very well and some branches of science like Biology and Geography brilliantly well. I was a reasonably good student from the onset and the inherent unbridled competitive streak in me made work hard and do well in exams. My ambitions changed every week, depending on the book that I was reading so I did not have a tunnel vision of one aim and certain kind of subjects that I wanted to specialize in which made me more or less uniformly perform well in all. That is until I reached Class 7.
In the 1990s the curriculum followed by my school was one of the most difficult ones across the country and the jump from Class 6 to Class 7 was a difficult one. I was a good student but I was also one of those who had to work very hard to become good. I began struggling from the beginning with syllabus and especially in Hindi. For those unversed, Hindi in Devanagari script and English are the official languages in India, which has another 22 different languages recognized by the Constitution that belong to different part of the country. My parents belonged from the East of India and spoke Bengali. They had moved to Delhi for work and though I was born in Delhi, my natural language was not Hindi ( the primary language of North India including Delhi ) but Bengali. Hindi was a language I had to learn outside of my natural conditioning just like English. But while the grammar of the latter was easier to me, the former with a gender based grammar, like French was far more difficult for me to imbibe. The fact that I was not exposed to Hindi literature at home unlike Bengali and English may have made it harder for me to relate to this language at that age. Regardless of the reasons, by Class 7, I was struggling and sinking in the miasma of Hindi and by most unfortunate luck, our class was assigned a legendry nasty teacher, Mrs. K to teach us the subject that year and the legend became my haunting reality. Every class and we had a Hindi class every day, every week, was her favorite time to lets make rude sarcastic comments on how incompetent I was, how worthless and how I would amount to nothing. She would make me read texts and then laugh at my inability to pronounce difficult words and threaten that until I made changes soon, I would live to regret it. How I could make the change, she never elaborated or shared. On Parents Teachers Meeting days, she would tell my mother while praising other students and their parents who did well, that my mother was a failure because she was a working woman ( my mom worked for a larger conglomerate as a senior executive when women were mostly secretaries) and apparently did not attend to her daughter. She would continue to insult my mom by saying that I should probably be married off as soon as I reach my adulthood because she did not know what else she could do with an idiot of a daughter like me. She guilt tripped my mother who was already had enough guilt into feeling miserable and angry at me and straining the mother daughter relationship further. I never knew why my Mum, always a strong woman, put up with all this; maybe she hoped the school certificate of such a prestigious school would somehow make my life and career easier; whatever be the reason, put up with it, she did. I however as a 10 year old had no tools to deal with the kind of indignation I was dealt with both at home and at school. Always a sensitive child, I began to believe that I was genuinely stupid and incapable of learning anything and my grades within year from being outstanding began to slide towards the bottom edge. I was convinced that I was truly an idiot and therefore saw no point in making any effort and instead, I gave myself up wholly to books and I read like one possessed. One of the rare good thing about our school was an extremely well stocked library and I used it liberally. My home was also filled with books so running out of reading material was never an issue. As my scores dipped, my Mum frustrated with the treatment that was meted out to her as a working mother and angry at a daughter who refused to change her ways, became more and more upset and many epic fights and scolds unfolded over the next few years. By Class 8 I had acquired the reputation of one of those awfully bad students and no teacher made any effort to understand why a girl who did not misbehave, loved books was so bad with her school work and such was the saga until Class 10. We had a new History teacher that year, Ms. V. Fresh off the boat so to speak; she had just finished her degree in Teacher’s Training college and had joined our school and was still learning the ropes around school and the background of the students. She did not teach history from the text books but from books in the library. She made things real and was truly interested in her subject and tried to impart that to her pupils. Her classes were interesting and I enjoyed them as any bookworm would when the past they had read about in the novels came alive through a teacher. She did not take any special interest in me or try to understand me, but she did deviate from the usual assignment style of Indian schools at that time , which was learning my rote and asked us to write an essay on The Great Depression. She expressly forbade us from writing anything from our textbooks and instead tasked us with find other sources and materials. I had by then read several novels about the great depression besides having several sets of encyclopedia’s and books at home which spoke about the event in detail, thanks to a scholarly father. This was one assignment that truly interested me and after a gap of several years, I made an effort to write an assignment. A few days later, the teacher handed out the graded essays to our class monitor to return them to us. I still distinctly remember her face as she handed me back my paper, the look of absolute surprise that passed in that one glance from the top of the page to my face, before handing it to me. I has been given an A+grade and from that moment onwards my academic narrative changed. I would go on to become an honors student, at the university and earn a Summa cum laude graduate degree. I would also remain excellent and proficient in all professional and personal commitment and become the by-word of self made success in my circle. All because a teacher who had no background into my academic past tested me on an assignment, that truly examined a student’s understanding of the past and it’s impact on modern economy and expected them to think and articulate their thoughts!
My experience in Class 7 did not leave me inspired to do great things or make me determined to do strive for excellence; but what it did was make me turn away and seek knowledge from other sources, making me realize that knowledge is very different from literacy. That habit of voracious reading that kept growing, would help me also get through to one of the premier Universities of the country in a course where they select only 45 students a year. She also taught me without ever intending to, what not to be – bitter, mean and ungenerous, to not laugh at someone weaker or without power, to not compare. The essay on Great Depression was a turning point; it was a validation of what I secretly always thought , that I was not stupid as my Hindi Teacher of Class 7 had made it out to be; in fact something deep inside me told me I was actually bright and knew more beyond school texts. It was my coming of age self confidence – my first foray into I know who I am and no one and nothing can change that. The only thing I ever regret is the not saving my Mum some of that unnecessary guilt trip and not stretching her already stretched patience. Otherwise, despite doing excellently in most of school years, the three years of interlude between Class 7 to Class 10, left me fraught and traumatized with painful memories, so much so, I refuse to attend any school reunions. It was not a happy place, my teachers did not make my school years memorable and I would never voluntarily go back there, ever! And to my Hindi Teacher, Mrs. K, please never attempt to take a job as a psychic, you would fail miserably.
This post was written in response to Suleika Jaoud’s The Isolation Journal weekly prompts. This week’s prompt was Write about a teacher, cataloging what you remember (good, bad, and otherwise) and how you saw them as a child. Then write about them as the student of life you are today.